Bag of Randomness for Wednesday, February 9, 2022

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Bag of Randomness for Tuesday, February 8, 2022

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Bag of Randomness for Monday, February 7, 2022

 

  • My weekend started off on a grim note. I was served papers by my ex’s lawyer. She is taking me to court because she wants the language in our divorce decree amended to be more clear and for me to no longer speak with our children except for the designated thirty minutes the non-possession parent has on Tuesday and Saturday nights. She also claims I’m harassing her because of a few texts I’ve sent asking her to have a conversation on why she chose divorce as the first option despite us never going to counseling. I thought she’d consider it now that the divorce is final and I suggested a third-party of her choice be part of it so she would feel safe and comfortable. It would be great if she would choose just to simply talk about these things instead of going through the legal system. We could solve everything in under an hour, maybe a half an hour, but she continues to run away from her problems. It would be great for me to hear what she felt go wrong and for me to apologize to her for things I should be accountable for, and to understanding her perception of things. But now I have to cough up more money to rehire my attorney. This may also mean I have to step away from blogging again until this case is settled. I’ll let you know if that happens. I sure hope not, blogging has been a return of normalcy for me, even though what I blog about is a bit different. You know, that was extremely hard, me not being able to do things which brought me joy. When she filed for divorce, blogging was taken away from me on advice from my lawyer, since material from this blog was used in court against me. And I missed doing DIY stuff around the house. But doing that stuff would have been pointless if we were just selling it.
  • Here I was fearing the PTSD from the icy weather we had and it almost being the one-year anniversary of the big freeze when my ex took the kids and left to her mother, and now court stuff, which I thought was all behind me, is back and feeling some PTSD again. Sadly, the ex knows what buttons to push.
  • My lawyer will sometimes tell me that something is an option, but there’s a financial price that it will cost, and I should do a cost-benefit analysis. I have a feeling my ex’s lawyer never does that and looks for every opportunity to charge her client. But then again, my ex’s wealthy parents are footing her bill. If they want, they can just keep dragging this on and drain me of funds until they get their way.
  • I need to remember my mantra or the word for 2022 I chose – yield. I have no control over a lot of these issues and just have to let things play out. But man, do I want it all past me.
  • I do chat with my children everyday just to get an idea on how their day went. Ninety percent of the time, I will message them first and ask them to FaceTime me when they have some free time. The conversations are usually less than five minutes, I just want to hear and see them and see how their day went. Maybe I wouldn’t be this way if she didn’t start things off by alienating them from me. I always make sure when I talk to them it’s not during dinner time, and if they are ever doing anything with their mother, I tell them they our conversation can wait.
  • My son told me the favorite part of the weekend was when we picked up two sticks from the ground and pretended to light-saber fight (and make sound effects with our mouths) for about 45-minutes as different Star Wars characters. I thought he would have told me it was playing video games with him or playing in the snow.
  • Over the weekend, my daughter snuck into my bathroom and put a Post-It on my mirror which said, “I love you,” and signed her name. Last night, my son used my bathroom to shower since the other bathroom was occupied. He arranged my toiletries to spell out “I Luv U”. Yup, I snapped photos.
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Bag of Randomness for Friday, February 4, 2022

  • BoyGeeding and DaughterGeeding were up early, even though they knew school was cancelled. They were excited about the snow and went outside first thing this morning. It brought a huge amount of joy to my heart to see this happy innocence and reminded me of the days when I was young without a worry in the world and how magical a school day being cancelled because of snow was. It also brought back painful memories of how I missed out on a week full of this last year when my wife abandoned me and kept the kids from communicating with me. Of course, I had my phone out taking photos and recording video of them playing in it. There were a few moments when I wanted to send them to my ex. That’s one thing I really miss – co-parenting, sharing joyful moments of the children with the only other person who can love my kids as much as I do. But she’s very against me sending her any sort of message or a reminder that I’m their father or we were once married.
  • Usually I watch a lot of local and national news, but avoided it all because I didn’t want to be reminded of the events of almost a year ago. It’s just too damn painful. Fortunately, I had my weekly session with my counselor to talk things out. Even more fortunately, my session didn’t have to be cancelled due to weather since we could meet online.
  • To my surprise, DaughterGeeding took her pet bunny (named Buno, after U2 frontman Bono) out of the cage for him to experience the snow.
  • The Book of Boba Fett: Why this character’s CGI is vastly better
  • National Butterfly Center on Texas border closing indefinitely after attacks from right-wing conspiracy theorists
    • The butterfly sanctuary, part of the North American Butterfly Association, made the announcement Wednesday. The decision came just days after GOP operatives descended on the site, reviving baseless and false conspiracy theories linking the center to sex trafficking.
  • Prosecutors want parents of accused Michigan school shooter to halt romantic gestures in court“The courtroom is not a place for blowing kisses and sending secret signals,” a prosecutor said.
  • Church sues city of Brookings for trying to limit how often it can feed the homeless(KGW) St. Timothy’s is suing the city over an ordinance restricting churches from offering meals more than two days a week.
  • A Fight Over the Right to Repair Cars Turns UglyIn the wake of a voter-approved law, Subaru and Kia dealers in Massachusetts have disabled systems that allow remote starts and send maintenance alerts.
  • This Old Ship-Carrying Ship Is Cursed To Live Out Its Days As A Billionaire’s YachtAfter being taken out of service, the ship underwent a three-year restoration process. This included the installation of essentials like a sun deck jacuzzi, swimming pool, outdoor cinema, tennis court, botanic garden and four aquariums. You know, basic yacht stuff.
  • 17 “Culture Shocks” Encountered By This American Woman Who Moved To Spain – Huh, tax is included in the sale price of items.
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