Bag of Randomness for Thursday February 10, 2022

  • I wonder if I’ll ever be able to buy a house again. My legal bills took the majority money from the sale of the house. I now have child support to pay for the next nine years and home prices are sky high.
  • It’s interesting speaking to other divorced fathers. We find it peculiar how we are all required to take out life insurance to pay for the remainder of child support until our youngest child graduates high school should something happen to us, but our exes aren’t required to take out any in case something happens to them.
  • Being a divorced dad makes you feel like a criminal. Having to create a profile on the state’s attorney general’s website and set up child support is humiliating. By court order, we are required to contact the payroll department of our current and future employers so child support can be automatically set up to be taken out on all paychecks. Anytime we move to a new address, we have to inform both the court and our ex by certified mail.
  • Depending on certain factors, every two years our exes can inquire or request a cost of living adjustment. The method they do this is odd. It’s done by us being served court papers, which seems cruel and invasive and as if we committed a crime.
  • The system is so skewed, women find more incentives in tearing a family apart instead of keeping it together. And, most of us fathers don’t even get the kids 50% of the time. Most of us are lucky if we get something called expanded-standard visitation, which is basically every Thursday night and every first, third, and the rare fifth weekend. It works out to basically 55-45. I’d like to know why I’m not deserving of that extra five percent. It sucks being a glorified weekend dad.
  • I’ve always heard that when a divorce happens, the husband will often be shocked at the friends who happen to side with the wife. The number of Pontius Pilates in my life was shocking.
  • Yesterday, my son asked me who was Adolf Hitler. I gave him the best explanation I could give a soon to be ten-year-old, and withheld any comparison to his mother and grandmother.
  • TheTruesSize.com lets you drag and drop any state or country and compare it to others.
  • @dallastexas_tvSomeone decided to paint a thumbs down on the Federal Reserve building in downtown today
  • Hudson, Ohio mayor suggests ice fishing could lead to prostitution in ice shanties
  • Boston Woman Gets on The Price is Right Only to Win a Trip to New Hampshire
  • Disney is placing its bets on sports streaming and the metaverse
    • Disney today reiterated its commitment to expanding its sports streaming portfolio, with Disney boss Bob Chapek confirming that the company is bidding for the NFL Sunday Ticket. Disney also plans to innovate its product around sports-centric features and its still-vague metaverse plans.
  • Disney Secretly Invented Two Colors (and They’re Everywhere!)
    • Go Away Green and Blending Blue are two of the most used paint colors at Walt Disney World Resort, but each particular shade is engineered by Disney Imagineers to make your eyes ignore them. 
  • Bob Odenkirk’s Long Road to Serious SuccessHe was a comedian’s comedian — until “Better Call Saul” revealed him as a peerless portrayer of broken souls. What will he turn himself into next?
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Bag of Randomness for Monday, February 7, 2022

 

  • My weekend started off on a grim note. I was served papers by my ex’s lawyer. She is taking me to court because she wants the language in our divorce decree amended to be more clear and for me to no longer speak with our children except for the designated thirty minutes the non-possession parent has on Tuesday and Saturday nights. She also claims I’m harassing her because of a few texts I’ve sent asking her to have a conversation on why she chose divorce as the first option despite us never going to counseling. I thought she’d consider it now that the divorce is final and I suggested a third-party of her choice be part of it so she would feel safe and comfortable. It would be great if she would choose just to simply talk about these things instead of going through the legal system. We could solve everything in under an hour, maybe a half an hour, but she continues to run away from her problems. It would be great for me to hear what she felt go wrong and for me to apologize to her for things I should be accountable for, and to understanding her perception of things. But now I have to cough up more money to rehire my attorney. This may also mean I have to step away from blogging again until this case is settled. I’ll let you know if that happens. I sure hope not, blogging has been a return of normalcy for me, even though what I blog about is a bit different. You know, that was extremely hard, me not being able to do things which brought me joy. When she filed for divorce, blogging was taken away from me on advice from my lawyer, since material from this blog was used in court against me. And I missed doing DIY stuff around the house. But doing that stuff would have been pointless if we were just selling it.
  • Here I was fearing the PTSD from the icy weather we had and it almost being the one-year anniversary of the big freeze when my ex took the kids and left to her mother, and now court stuff, which I thought was all behind me, is back and feeling some PTSD again. Sadly, the ex knows what buttons to push.
  • My lawyer will sometimes tell me that something is an option, but there’s a financial price that it will cost, and I should do a cost-benefit analysis. I have a feeling my ex’s lawyer never does that and looks for every opportunity to charge her client. But then again, my ex’s wealthy parents are footing her bill. If they want, they can just keep dragging this on and drain me of funds until they get their way.
  • I need to remember my mantra or the word for 2022 I chose – yield. I have no control over a lot of these issues and just have to let things play out. But man, do I want it all past me.
  • I do chat with my children everyday just to get an idea on how their day went. Ninety percent of the time, I will message them first and ask them to FaceTime me when they have some free time. The conversations are usually less than five minutes, I just want to hear and see them and see how their day went. Maybe I wouldn’t be this way if she didn’t start things off by alienating them from me. I always make sure when I talk to them it’s not during dinner time, and if they are ever doing anything with their mother, I tell them they our conversation can wait.
  • My son told me the favorite part of the weekend was when we picked up two sticks from the ground and pretended to light-saber fight (and make sound effects with our mouths) for about 45-minutes as different Star Wars characters. I thought he would have told me it was playing video games with him or playing in the snow.
  • Over the weekend, my daughter snuck into my bathroom and put a Post-It on my mirror which said, “I love you,” and signed her name. Last night, my son used my bathroom to shower since the other bathroom was occupied. He arranged my toiletries to spell out “I Luv U”. Yup, I snapped photos.
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