This comment was posted yesterday and I wanted to share it in case it got overlooked. It’s raw and helped me gain some perspective and I want to thank the person for taking the time to write it. It was a response to Gordon Keith’s loss of his parents and my thoughts of being “orphaned” or without any living parents.
I’ve been nobody’s son for several years now, and both my parents are still alive. You spend a lot of time missing them, and I suppose that’s admirable in some ways, but you should spend more time being grateful for having had great parents. I realize those two emotions may be inseparable, and it’s not meant as a criticism. But for those of us who have had drunk assholes as parents, then spend a significant number of years trying to be the good son, then finally decide to cut the dead weight from our lives, it’s liberating. I’m not sure I will know when my parents die. I know for certain I won’t grieve for them.
I too had to part ways with a close family member, one that I idolized as a kid and teen. And as much as I miss the relationship, I’m thankful I no longer feel like I’m walking on eggshells or trying to make it work. Sometimes you do have to cut the dead weight, and it is liberating.
For those of you that have gotten a lot out of Netflix’s ‘Making a Murderer’, I think you’d enjoy the series ‘Rectify’ which is also streaming on Netflix. At least, give the pilot a try. In short, the main character, Daniel Holden, was imprisoned as a teenager for the rape and murder of his 16-year-old friend, Hanna. After 19 years on death row, new DNA evidence vacates his original trial, and he returns to his small Georgia hometown. The DA that tried him is now a senator trying to reopen the case with other small town politics coming into play, and you get to see Daniel try to adjust to a world which passed him by, by 19-years.
Natalie Cole died on the last day of 2015 at the age of 65. I bet many folks would be surprised to her that her legendary father, Nat King Cole, died at the age of 45.