Personally, I had certain goals before I wanted to meet before becoming a father. These aren’t goals I think every person should have, but they were important to me.
– I didn’t want to bring a child home to an apartment, I wanted to bring a child home to a house.
– I wanted to have manageable debt so I could adequately provide for my family without feeling I was sacrificing so much to the point that the kiddo would be missing out other things, and be able to at least put a little away for college.
– I wanted to be married at least for four years because I think it’s important for a marriage to mature. Heck, I’m still finding things out about my wife.
– After losing both parents and one of my closest friends (who is the namesake of my daughter) I wanted to make sure I was emotionally ready.
Obtaining an MBA was on the list, but that was flexible. I did meet my future spouse while I was working on it. And I wanted to wait until there was a Democrat in the White House. I’m kidding, seriously, I’m kidding on that last sentence. But the last thing I needed was the church making my wife and I feel guilty for wanting to start a family on the timeline that we felt God wanted us to start one.