Another Delay In My Return To Regular Blogging

I’m still waiting on the judge to sign the final divorce decree, but there’s been a new development regarding my health. For the past month or so, I’ve been progressively losing my fine motor skills, strength, coordination and there has been a change in the way I walk. After four MRIs and a visit to the neurosurgeon who performed my spinal fusion almost three years ago, it was determined I need to have cervical spondylotic myelopathy surgery. In short, it’s neck surgery to alleviate a spinal fluid leak and fuse some vertebrates and to make room to take the pressure off my spinal cord. Putting surgery off too long can lead to permanent nerve damage and eventual paralysis. There are three areas of concern, but only two need to be surgically addressed.

The severeness of my symptoms ranges throughout the day. There are times in which I can’t throw a ball to BoyGeeding, and then there are times I can do so, but with much difficulty and little strength. When I try to run, my brain tells my legs to move, but they don’t or slow in responding, and I end up falling. Sometimes typing, writing, and using food utensils are very challenging, but at times it’s not too bad, and I think I can tolerate life like this. However, my neurosurgeon has stressed this surgery needs to be a priority in my life. He’s going to have to go through my throat but said he can hide the scare well using a natural crease. I’m told I’ll have a really sore throat for a few days after surgery.

It’s been challenging working with the mother of my children since our separation back in February, even on what I think are the simplist of issues, so I’ve scheduled my surgery during the extended period in which I won’t have the children for Christmas break to avoid any scheduling or possession swapping conflicts. With no family to rely on, I’m going to have to depend on my church and a few select friends to take me to and from the hospital and to help me during the recovery process. It will suck waking up from surgery and not seeing any loved ones or have them visit, but c’est la vie. It’s an excellent opportunity to work on dealing with adversity, as if losing my wife, family, house, and going through a major job change this year wasn’t enough.

The positives:

  • I have the best neurosurgeon in the Dallas and he accepts my insurance. He’s theĀ  Chief of the department of Neurological Surgery at Baylor University Medical Center in Dallas, and you’ll see him on the sidelines during Cowboys games in a red cap as he leads the concussion protocol medical team. You’ll see on his website he’s Roger Staubach (and for you evangelicals) and Matt Chandler endorsed.
  • This is his second most common surgery.
  • It’s the same exact procedure Peyton Manning had done except I’m getting an additional vertebra fused. He’s also performed the surgery on a certain Fox Sports personality who used to play for the Cowboys. I can’t identify the scares on their throats, so hopefully you won’t see mine once I’m healed.
  • I should only have one overnight stay in the hospital.
  • When it’s my turn to have possession of the kids, I will have recovered enough to drive and do some light activities with them.
  • Once the judge signs the divorce decree, I’ll blog, but it won’t be consistent, as it will just depend on how well I’m able to type that day. Right now, it’s been a lot of hunting and pecking with my index fingers, which is a little tiring.

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7 Responses to Another Delay In My Return To Regular Blogging

  1. Anonymous says:

    I have had this surgery twice. The second was a lot easier. The scar is just a wrinkle on your neck.not noticeable at all.I just hated the neck brace. you will do fine . Take care.

  2. Ricardo Perry says:

    Hey amigo,

    My uncle had a similar surgery and his biggest gripe was the neck brace.

    Wish you the best. Persevere.

  3. AndreaJN says:

    Good luck on your surgery. All the best!

  4. RPM says:

    Good luck with the surgery. Things will improve, it just takes patience.

  5. Purplee33 says:

    Hang in there. Praying your surgery goes well. Please keep us updated as you are able too.

  6. Anonymous says:


    Sorry to hear about the health issues and the divorce. I’ve no sage words regarding medical issues, but with the divorce – BTDT thirteen years ago. Like you, it hit me unawares. I can’t minimize or trivialize the pain and anguish that persisted for many years, but I can say that God and time will see you through it (and I know you’re someone who trusts in Him).

    Prayers for your healing, physically and emotionally. Blessings to your family.


  7. Marly says:

    This is a shock – I’m one of those random once-in-a-quarter viewers that have enjoyed your blog over the years. Please get better – your writings and links have been a pleasure,

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