Hello BagOfNothing Faithful,
I thought my return to regular blogging would have happened by now, but due to forces beyond my control, it’s been delayed. I first stepped away from blogging to focus on some personal concerns and my family. Then, the person who I used to be able to refer to as “WifeGeeding” for 17 years unexpectedly abandoned me and filed for divorce, despite us never going to a single counseling session or even meeting with our pastor one time. To my surprise, my blog, this little website, was used against me in court. Despite wanting to return to blogging, my attorney advised against it until the divorce is finalized. I was told last month that the divorce should be finalized by the end of October, but here we are, and I’ve probably revealed too much. Once we and then the judge signs the divorce decree, I’ll resume regular blogging. I’m guessing that will be early to mid-November.
Many of you have reached out to me since I first stepped away, and I’m sorry I didn’t take the time to reply. It’s been tough and didn’t know how to reply appropriately. A lot of you have informed me you make this blog a part of your morning routine, and I’m sorry that’s been disrupted for so long. It’s been tough, much tougher than I imagined. A year ago I weighed about 250-255 lbs, this morning I was 188 lbs. None of that weight loss was planned. I used to listen to U2 music to provide me comfort during tough times, but because I have such an emotional connection with the music and associate them with my soon-to-be exspouse, they are just too gut-wrenching to listen to.
As you would imagine, it’s been tough on both BoyGeeding and DaughterGeeding. Keep them in your prayers, as well as their mother and father. In the span of about eight months, I’ve lost my wife, family, and home. And, since my employer has moved me to another area after ten years in the same place, in some ways, I also feel I lost my job as well. Some of you may have seen this coming and some of you may think I deserve everything that happened to me. You may be right. All I can do is learn from the past, make amends, and work on becoming a better version of myself and a better father to my two wonderful children. Easier said than done. I fought like hell to keep my family and our covenant together. Unfortunately, despite my best efforts, that’s not going to happen.
Thank you for your patience, understanding, and loyalty. I hope I can make it up to you.
Godspeed,
Keith
So sorry to hear this!
Wow. I’m so very sorry to learn this. My thoughts are with you, your children and their mother.
You owe us nothing. Take care of yourself and your children, that’s what is important.
Keep the faith, things will get better.
Really hate to hear this, but hang in there. Believe it or not, there is life after divorce.
Very sorry to hear your news, but hope that days of peace and happiness follow for you and your family.
You hang in there. I’m so sorry that you’ve had such a tough time and I’m rooting for you. 🙂
This: “You owe us nothing. Take care of yourself and your children, that’s what is important.
Keep the faith, things will get better.”
You have given us the privilege of sharing your life with us. No need for apologies.
I wish I could be as open with someone. Sorry this was used against you.
I will pray for you and you family. Persevere.
_ = all the above comments –
You owe us nothing,
God Speed- your family is in my prayers- I went through a divorce many years ago- while it seems unbearable at times- life takes over with healing and many different blessings- keep your eye out for them.
Your kids are most important – we will be here when you get back. Hang in there brother.
Craig
You look good
believe . your stronger than you know.
Prayers for you and your family
Have been thinking about you for a while. Praying for you, and your family.
You owe us nothing, Amigo, but read those comments and know people are rooting for you and your family.
Take as much time as you need.
You owe us nothing, Amigo, but read those comments and know people are rooting for you and your family.
Take as much time as you need.
Hi Keith,
I’m sorry for all you’ve been through. I’ve been a daily reader for years myself, and have clicked on the link to BON almost daily waiting for your return (when it happens, take care of yourself first).
I actually had almost the same scenario happen to me 25 years ago. My spouse filed for divorce and left me devastated. Over the years I came to realize that it was the right call. It allowed me to live a life and find happiness I would have never known if we had stayed together. Good things are coming your way. I promise.
So sorry for your troubles. Sending prayers your way.
Compadre, I am sending out good vibes your way. Not all storybook marriages have a happy ending. You just have to wake up and start a new day & a new chapter in your life. You love your kids, as evident in many postings. Keep reminding them of that fact as often as you can. Treasure the happy memories you created with the one-eyed girl. Let the rest of the unpleasantness evaporate as you and she take different paths. Life is too short to get trapped in the what-ifs. You have numerous friends in the ether world rooting for you, your two precious Geeding children, and yes – even your soon to be ex. During your blog absence, I had one of those events that could have sent me to that big Disney Ride in the Sky, but luckily it wasn’t time for Archangel Michael to punch that coupon. So, I am glad I will be here a bit longer to read your musings. Take care, Brother Geeding.